Friday, August 27, 2010

Dylan & Heather Are Married!

We left for Portland on Thursday, 19 August 2010, mid-morning. Glenda and I were "celebrating" our 25th wedding anniversary and, although superficially this sounds like a bit of a bummer, we were thrilled to be doing so. That evening we were in the temple sharing the session with Heather as she received her endowment, and although it could have been just another temple session for some, for us it represented a major milestone not only for Heather, but for Dylan and, by extension, for us as well. Dylan had chosen wisely (oddly, Heather, despite all appearances, must be a bit daft having agreed to his proposal!!), and our being together in the temple for the 6:00 p.m. session was the first step that would culminate in their sealing the next day. Even spending the night alone on our 25th anniversary wasn't appealing enough to miss it.

We were given a very nice two-room motel suite where Glenda and I shared a king-sized bed in one room while Dylan, Simon Jones (Dylan's Best Man) and Bradley (Dylan's roommate) shared a couple of queen beds.

En route, traveling with Carly and Shem and their girls, Stella's foot and lower-leg began to swell dramatically (click here for Carly's version). It looked just like what happens to Glenda and Carly's mosquito bites so dismissed it until we arrived in Portland and it was not only quite swollen but very warm to the touch. The kids took her to the hospital ER where she was given some antibiotics that helped quickly to get rid of the infection! Where did that come from? Anyhow, by Saturday she was much better and ran about the Baker City reception for Dylan and Heather as if nothing had ever been amiss.

On Friday, Carly and Dylan left early (around 8:00 a.m.) to take some pictures prior to the ceremony. We met them around 9:30 or so, and joined Heather's family, the Harstons, for more pictures. Carly is amazing as a photographer and immediately took charge of a large group, directing them from place to place, where to stand, how to stand, etc. Her little frame seemed to swell with authority while her voice achieved a timbre of brass that not only cut through the noise of the very large fountain very close by, but silenced the crowd and compelled them to their stations. She is wonderful! We've only seen a couple of the pictures but they are wonderful. Such as:





Look how the girls seem to be floating in mid air - as if Heather is The White Queen and Amber Mozina (aka Mo) and Caitlin Lamb (aka Clamb), her bridesmaids are The White Queen's hench-women. Carly had them jump straight up, stiff-legged. Apparently it took several attempts to get this photo, but I think it was well worth it. The last photo of Dylan has him looking like some kind of celebrity dressed "to the nines." A good-looking young man, I say.

The ceremony in the temple is quiet and reverent. Many of Heather's family were there including all her older siblings and their spouses, her Uncle Tom and Aunt Vera, and her grandmother Harston. Carly, Shem, Glenda, and I represented the Isaacsons, and Jason & Stacy Bingham, Simon Jones, and Bradley joined us as well. The two of them came in, looking lovely, and listend whle a Brother Richardson offered some counsel and advise - almost none of it anyone can remember, sadly. I did take away his suggestion that if they wanted their marriage to endure and grow more rich each year, they needed to focus on each other and not themselves. I've surely found that when I've forgotten myself wanting things to be good for Glenda, and she doing the same for me, we each come away with much, much more than the sum of the sacrifice. Well, they kneeled across the alter, joined hands and Brother Richardson pronounced blessings and promises through the covenants they made with God. It was short, sweet, and moving. I was fine, emotionally, until Simon stepped up to congratulate his friend. Dylan wrapped his arms around his Best Man and kind of fell apart. That did it, and I was a bit gone - but only for a short while. We all made our congratulations to the newly weds and out we went. In the foyer, Stella and Olive were being well-tended by Heather's roommates; we were all reunited and welcomed Dylan and Heather as they came out of the temple. More pictures, more congratulations, and we were off.

We took the groomsmen and three of Dylan's friends (who showed up to the temple too late), as well as the Binghams out to lunch and made our way slowly north for the Enumclaw reception. The traffic was terrible, especially coming out of Portland and going into Fort Lewis and Tacoma. Whew! I hate that traffic - and most of the cars carrying only one person. It's maddening.

The Enumclaw reception was very enjoyable, the Harston's making a very good show. They didn't organize a formal reception line, which was a wonderful relief, and we milled about introducing ourselves and being introduced. After a short while, their bishop came by - he is an old friend from La Grande, Eldon Berry. He recognized me, of course, and I him. We visited, caught up the many years since last we visited and it was a good reunion. He comes from a very strong family and they were a wonderful influence upon me as I was growing up.

About 40 minutes into the reception, Heather's older brothers set up a cable with a pulley and made a Zip-line with one end of the cable connected to a tree, about 30-feet up, and the other attached to the hitch on the back of their pickup. Even the bridesmaids went down! It was fun.

Glenda and drove from there to Kennewick where we got a room for the night. We drove home and made final preparations for our reception at the Crown Courtyard in Baker City. All of Glenda's and Carly's planning made the thing come off without a hitch or worry and we followed the same template as in Enumclaw with no formal reception line. We enjoyed about 100 guests and lovely weather, despite a little bit of a strong breeze. The new couple took a room at the Crown Courtyard and left for their honeymoon the next day to Wallowa Lake for 5 days.

It was a tremendous weekend. I thrilled to see them become husband and wife, although were I to plan it they would have waited a few more years. But, inasmuch as Glenda and I raised Dylan to think and act for himself, and Glen and Diane seemingly did the same with Heather, it should come as no surprise that they would actually do so. It's a bit irritating that they did so, but not surprising. They make a lovely couple, and seeing them together creates as hopeful future for them. Today all is rosy, but that will wear off soon enough. Dylan has inherited my impatience, and hopefully Heather will be able to cool him down as well as Glenda has me. They will make it well I'm sure. They will make concession here and there, and will find things about the other that they might have changed had they known it earlier, but this is nothing new to any marriage. Surely they can weather the storms ahead and exercise some faith in each other, themselves, and the promises and blessings given through their covenants. We will certainly entertain them as best we can and support them always. We love them both, and are thrilled to have increased our family with one as lovely in spirit as is Heather.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Penny & Irv - August 2010

Dear All;

Yesterday I had routine follow-up with my surgeon and oncologist. Dr. Kowalski said I was healing fine and everything looked good. (What was he supposed to say? "OMG, I did a horrible job on you!" Ha!)

Dr. Kornfeld, the oncologist, didn't go so well. My liver function tests were quite elevated. Since they were fine in May when I had the mastectomy there are three possibilities:

1. The new anti-cancer drug Aromasin is causing the change.

2. The herbs I've been taking are causing the problem.

3. OR, there is another factor as yet unknown.

I feel just fine. Not all the test results were available yesterday. I'm supposed to call Dr. Kornfeld by Tues. if he doesn't call me with further instructions. Right now I don't know what will be happening. I admit to being more than a little concerned. So keep those good thoughts coming!

Everyone was most impressed with my new boob and how it looked just like the real one. It was a hot day and that prosthesis is HOT as well. It is made of some gel like material so didn't "breathe" at all and I got quite sweaty underneath it all. Dr. Kowalski wasn't as concerned as the "boob lady" was about not wearing it and the bra all the time. He said to just be sure that if I start to feel any neck, back or shoulder pain to wear the whole thing for a few days and see if it helps. It could just be that I strained the muscles doing something else. I haven't worn anything since May and don't feel lopsided, let alone painful. I hope it won't become a problem.

Love to you all and again, thanks for so much support through out this ordeal. I guess it isn't quite over yet.

Penny

PS: Irv is feeling entirely well! That is a very good thing!

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Penny & Irv - August 2010

Dear All;

As of today I am the proud owner of a new left boob.  Plus two bras that are very pretty, as well they should be as they are really spendy.  I'm glad I don't have to pay for these.   Well, in a way.  Since we have paid out a fortune this year for everything else we are both into our "free" care.  The lady who fitted me for the stuff said that most insurances only approve 2 bras per year, one prosthesis every two years.  (Medicare pays for 6 bras per year.  Not sure how they handle the "boobs.")  My sister-in-law Debbie said she say a slogan for this years' Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure:  "Yes, these are fake.  My real one(s) tried to kill me!"  I love it.  As I have mentioned I inherited my mom's monster boobs.  Because of that I didn't have a lot of choice in bras.  Lynda, the boob lady, said a company is coming out with softer, more comfortable bras in September.  I tried on the largest she had and it wasn't nearly big enough.  Thanks Mom!  She will call me when they become available.  I would like to get a couple, even if I have to pay for them.  Since I haven't worn a bra for 10 years, since the first cancer surgery, these fairly rigid bras are kind of off-putting.  I wasn't concerned about going braless now, but Lynda said that since I did have a larger single breast that eventually I would develop spine and shoulder discomfort.  Hmmmm.  I see the surgeon on the 20th and I'll ask him as well. 

Irv is still feeling very well.  He has been really busy around the house doing chores.  All our wood for this winter he has split and stacked.  We have very little left of our store so he has ordered 3 cords from a wood broker here in La Pine.  The guy delivers rounds for free.  The forest service must give these guys access that the regular people can't use.  The areas we have surveyed on the open areas available are pretty bare.  We don't mind cutting smaller trees, they don't need splitting, but even small ones are gone.  There is so much beetle killed trees around we wonder if that is available to the brokers and not the general public.  Rats!

With my leg still in a non-weight bearing cast I can only watch Irv work.  Plus send him into the garage several times a day for stuff.  Poor guy.

That is all for now.

Penny

Penny & Irv - July 2010

Dear All;

Irv has been on the steroids since Saturday and so far not feeling any ill effects.  His glucose levels haven't been out of control and he is still feeling quite well.  Whatever this mysterious illness he had (has) appears to have left his body.  All the household chores he had been putting off like staining the huge decks and railings, wood chopping and splitting and stacking, weed-eating, and poop patrol of the dog kennels, etc. he has been doing without being exhausted after 5 minutes or less of work.  Hooray!

I got the cast on my left foot and lower leg on Monday.  Having to use this knee scooter instead of crutches (because of the mastectomy) is a real pain.  I need Irv's help to do just about anything except roll around our - thankfully - one story home.  It is still 3 steps up and down into the garage where our freezer and pantry are located.  So, good old Irv gets to make all those trips for me - several times a day.  He is now claiming to be the saint in this marriage!   Well, I never!  Meanwhile, the toe is healing well and no signs of infection or other nonsense.  I'm due to get the cast of on August 30.  Believe me, a major celebration will be held.  I just hope this works and I can walk, hike, & kind of run without ANY pain in that foot. 

I am so glad to report such boring information.  We have been thru hell and are so thankful for all your support.  My sister Kerrin was such a blessing when she came to care for me after the mastectomy.  Just having her here made me feel better.  If Irv hadn't gotten so much better my brothers were ready to come and do all those chores Irv has just completed.  What would be do without loving family and friends?

Love to you all;

Penny

Penny & Irv - July 2010

Dear Everyone;

Dr. Quinn was less than impressed with my "non" boob.  The previously irradiated skin is still very hard and not anywhere close to being soft enough for expansion.  So, the other option is a major operation where the rectus abdominus muscle is severed at the bottom of the abdomen and tunneled up under the skin to the breast area.  Excess skin from the donor site (muscle) is used to cover the area being reconstructed.  This surgery requires 5-7 days in the hospital.  The chance exists that the muscle will not retain its blood supply and die, leaving a real mess.  The other breast would be reduced in size at the same time.  Since my irradiated skin is not doing well now, I don't want to chance it doing even worse after such a big operation.  Neither of the two plastic surgeons in Bend do this difficult surgery any more due to one's bad back and the other's bad neck!  The surgery requires a lot of bending over forming the tunnel under the skin of the abdomen get the muscles up to the boob.  That means I'd have to go to Portland or even Seattle for this surgery.  I said NO!   This can be done in years to come, not right now, if I change my mind.  It is kind of a relief as we were running out of time to get this all done before I had to pay another $10,000 deductible starting in Nov.  It really doesn't bother me too much to be a right sided uni-boob.  I will get a mastectomy bra and prosthesis to wear when I need to be seen in public on a formal occasion.  Otherwise, get used to seeing only one breast under my T-shirts!  Right now I use undershirts with a shelf bra that I stuff with socks.  (Irv notes that he hasn't grabbed a handful of sock since junior high school!  Ha, ha.)  Then I layer some shirts over it and it is quite convincing. 

Irv sees the doctor on Thursday and should begin steroid treatment.  Right now he is feeling perfectly well, so we will see if he has to undergo the treatment or not.

Love,

Penny

Penny & Irv - July 2010

Dear All;

I had my toe surgery on Wed. It went well, but this non weight bearing nonsense is tooooo much. I have to scoot round on a knee scooter. Our toilet areas are not invalid friendly!

Irv finally heard from the gastro docs yesterday. He goes in on Thursday next week to start the steroids for autoimmune pancreatitis. I hope we will hear about the CAT scan and blood work results then.

I see the plastic surgeon on Tuesday. I hope he will say I can begin the reconstruction process. It has to be completed by Oct. 31 and I'm sure it will take several weeks of expanding the device placed in the breast area. I don't know when the reduction on the other side will take place - at the same time the device is implanted or when the final prosthesis is put in place on the mastectomy side. Irv is still hoping for "perky" boobs. We'll see.

It is very hot here. Into the upper 90's. Thankfully it cools off at night so we don't need the air-conditioning 24 hours a day. It is nice to get some "regular" weather after such a long cold spring and early summer.

Thanks again for all your support. At least we have entered a fairly calm stage of this process. It is a mental and emotion relief!

Penny and Irv